10 Things I Learned in Business Building Boot Camp

10 Things I Learned in Business Building Boot Camp

This past weekend I had the opportunity to attend my first business building boot camp and it happened to be for women only and honestly that scared me a bit. I worried about things like what clothes I would wear, that everybody else there was going to be way more advanced than me in their businesses, that the other women would judge me for thinking that I belonged there in the first place, and on and on.

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Let me tell you how wrong I was. I was so glad for making the decision to go to this event. By the end of the meeting, I was so inspired by all the women there; the speakers and the audience full of other entrepreneurs were so amazingly supportive of each other. I was so surprised to find out how much we could all relate to each other in business, in our personal lives, and as women.

In fact, I was so moved by the speakers and their genuine support for one another that I actually worked up the nerve to ask a few questions in front of dozens of people. That was the scariest part of being there for me, but the response from my fellow female entrepreneurs was honestly something that caught me off guard.

After just my first meeting like this, I am more now than ever before, motivated to help other women such as myself. I try my hardest to remain positive and stay motivated every single day but this event was much needed to remind me and many other women that we are not alone in our journeys to become better.

With that being said, I’d like to share with you just a few things I have learned from the guest speakers as well as from those who, like me, came there with the hopes of bettering themselves. 10 things I’ve learned in business boot camp (in no particular order) are:

1. Being yourself and showing up as yourself

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If you love what you do and you are excited to share it with the world, why not go all out? Don’t hold back because there are so many people who are passionate about the same thing and you might be inspiring those people to follow their dreams. Probably best of all, by being your authentic self, you are attracting like minded people who truly love and believe in what you do and they may become loyal customers and possibly collaborators. Don’t miss out on opportunities because of fear of being you 100%.

2. Your powerful stories make you relatable and will make people gravitate to you

One of the things I love to do is tell my customers the story of how I began making my skincare products, because I know that each one of them can relate to at least one thing I say. Tell your story. Let your customers know how the idea for what you are doing came about, especially if there is an interesting story behind it. Let people see the passion in your eyes when you talk about this. Everyone has a story to tell, we all have been through something that’s made us want to make a change in our lives and though our stories are different in many ways, it is surprising how often we can relate to each other no matter our differences. When someone feels they can relate to you, they tend to want to talk to you and trust you more

3. Move

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One of the guest speakers uses a formula called MOVE:
Make a decision about what it is you want to achieve
Own it; stop doubting yourself after you decide that you want to do something
Visualize the life you want for yourself, take 5 minutes a day for 30 days and visualize the life you’re working towards
Execute; take aligned action. Do something that supports your goal

4. Make yourself your own CEO; answer to yourself

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We all get off track once in a while when we know we should focus more and avoid being distracted, some of us more than others (one of my biggest challenges)

It is so easy to put off things when there are no deadlines and we don’t have to answer to anyone. One way to deal with this is to set a schedule for yourself and be strict about following it, set times to get your work done in 15, 30 minute or 1 hour increments to start and build a habit. If you are having a hard time doing it on your own, get an accountability partner.

5. Focus on your strengths and find others to help with your weaknesses

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When you know what you are good at, use it and focus on getting better at it. Don’t spend too much time worrying about what you’re not good at because that will take away from the things you can do, which means nothing is getting done. Find people who understand your goal and have the skills you can use but don’t have; ask them for help, exchange products, reviews, suggestions, or whatever you agree on. I have a friend who is an amazing coach for personal life and business but she is just not ready to make it her career as of now; but she coaches me twice a month and we were able to work out something reasonable for me because she understands that I can’t afford what she would normally charge. I must say again though that if you use a friend or a family member, you should find someone who understands that you take your work seriously and that it is more than just a hobby, this way you’re both on the same page and things will run smoothly.

Be on the lookout for part 2 of what I learned in Business Building Boot Camp coming up next week.

I AM A Woman Business Owner

I AM Strong

I AM Confident

I AM Dedicated

I AM the Creator of My Destiny

I DO NOT Falter in the Face of Adversity

I DO NOT Give up on My Goals or My Dreams

I AM an Ecourager and Supporter of All Women

I AM Building the Wealth of my Family, Community, and Country

I AM A Woman Business Owner AND I WILL CREATE MY SUCCESS

-Denise Joy Thompson Life & Business Coach

Sometimes It Takes B*lls To Be A Woman!

Sometimes It Takes B*lls To Be A Woman!

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One of my favorite quotes lately: “If you see the glass as half empty, pour it into a smaller glass and stop bitching.”

Be optimistic instead of looking at a situation as hopeless. I for one, choose to think this way as much as I can, though I have my bad days where nothing seems to go right. I truly believe that we have the ability to make ourselves happy or unhappy. We all want to be successful in life or, at least comfortable but sometimes we get so close to reaching our goals but we get discouraged and quit.

My mother is a great reminder to me of why I refuse to be mediocre or a complainer. She has been through hell and back; she has had to hustle to survive for as long as I can remember. She was married twice; her first marriage was to my father who left when I was about 3 years old and my sister was not even born. She later remarried to another man with whom she had two kids. Her second marriage was no better than the first, she was left with two more children to care for on her own.

Being our sole provider was not easy, mom was hardly ever home. I should explain that where I come from, there are very few opportunities for work especially for a woman, and even when there are opportunities, you have to have a college degree.

My mother’s only means of supporting her family was to travel across the continent and sell women’s apparel. Though, most times she came home discouraged because business was bad, she never gave up.

I wonder how my mother felt knowing that she was the sole provider in a culture where women were looked at only as homemakers and nothing else.
All my life I’ve felt my mother was a superwoman. She did not need someone to take care of her because she always worked despite the challenges she faced as a woman.

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She traveled, and she made sure my education was priority when I was old enough to start school, even though many parents of girls in our culture had dreams of their daughters getting married young and having children to bring honor and a good name to their family. Boys were supposed to be educated and take care of their family, girls were to be married and financially supported by their husband.

Many families with mothers and fathers in the household struggled to afford everyday necessities due to poverty. Because of my mother, our family never went hungry or wanted for anything. My sister and I had nice clothes compared to most children we knew, we had dolls, toys and things other little girls could only dream of at the time. Even though we were financially better off than most, we were by no means rich; but, my mother and grandmother strongly believed in giving.

When my mother wasn’t there, our grandma and our aunt looked after my sister and I. These women are like very few I’ve met in my life. My mothers as I like to call them (my aunt, my mom and grandma), did not ask for anything from anyone no matter how difficult the situation they were in. They each would give you the shirt off their backs, but would not want anything in return, this is actually true for all the women in my mother’s family.

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As a child, walking home from school, a man ran over my foot with his bicycle and injured my toe. True to the nature of the people in my culture, the man walked me home to my great aunt’s house to make sure I was okay and to apologize to my family. My mother was out at the time, but my great aunt was home and she decided that the man should wait for my mother so that he could explain to her what happened.

When it comes to her children, my mother did not take things lightly so her aunt knew better than to make decisions without her consent especially, because I was hurt. While waiting for my mother, I remember my great aunt giving the man who injured me food and water and making sure he was comfortable.

As a child, I didn’t understand why she fed and cared about the man who had just hurt me. Even though this is the culture I grew up in, I did not realize that this man’s honesty and integrity was something that made him worthy of respect and forgiveness. This stranger realized his mistake, took full responsibility for it and chose to face the consequences regardless of what that meant. My mother had to explain this to me because I was too young to understand it at the time.

My mothers (all three of them) taught me strength, forgiveness, and to always help others whenever I can because no matter how much we have, it could all be gone just like that. They have taught me that when it is my time to leave this earth, I could not take my material possessions with me. They taught me that

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The woman who gave me life is a true hero to me, yes, but I know she’s also a hero to many others; because of her kind heart, honesty, and fairness. I’ve spent most of my life without a father figure and I struggle as a woman because that was a very important but missing part of my life, but my mother has taught me how to be independent, strong, caring, the best mother I can be, and best of all, to never ever give up. I will always be grateful to her for being the woman she is, even though she was probably not aware that I was watching her and becoming who I am because of who she was.

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Now I have a daughter who is also watching me while I shape the young lady she will become one day. I am not perfect, I make mistakes, I make poor decisions; but I will teach my daughter that despite my flaws, I can make a difference in this life. I will teach her to love herself first, to treat others as she wants to be treated, to choose optimism always and to strive to be self-sufficient in every way possible.

Journey to Enlightenment!

I’ve spent most of my life feeling like an outsider. There has never really been one group that I fit into. I don’t really fit in in my culture because I spent most of my life outside of it. I’m not like other women that come from the same place as me. I don’t completely fit into the American culture because of how I was raised, even though I spent most of my life in America. Most of the time I wonder why I think, feel, and behave differently.
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Even with all of these questions I have, even when I wonder why I’m so different, one thing I’ve always been proud and sure of is that I am not a follower. I love being original and true to myself. I truly enjoy being creative, and seeing potential from things most people think of as useless or not beautiful. I like imperfections because they make things real; a worn piece of furniture means it’s been loved well over the years.

When it comes to my imperfections however, I have never been as understanding. I’ve never considered myself to be better than anyone else. I try my best not to hurt or offend others, I dislike the idea of being a burden. For this reason, I hesitate to ask for help when I need it because I don’t want to be a bother.

The one good thing to me that has come out of this is that it has taught me to be independent because I learned to figure things out alone. The very bad thing about feeling this way is that I focus so much on my mistakes and imperfections, that I ignore all of the good things about myself. It is such a difficult thing to live this way because it is a constant battle.Path to enlightenment

Recently, I went through some life changes that had me wondering more than ever what is going on with me. While searching for answers I came across this: https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test. I took this test, read the results and I was astonished. As I was reading my results, it felt like someone was in my body translating all of the feelings and emotions into words that I could never speak before, because I could never find the words. I felt so many things: happy, relieved, understood, validated, and I finally knew why few people get me. I found out that my personality type is one of only about 4% of the population. 4%. That’s it.

I know now that it is in my nature to be emotional, to care so much about others that I take on their emotions (happy or sad) and carry it with me long after our meeting. Having this personality is why I avoid social situations sometimes, it is why I feel exhausted after certain get-togethers with people. I know now that wanting to be alone sometimes is not a bad thing but actually a necessity for me, to restore and replenish myself so that I can continue to be that sensitive, caring person.

With this new self discovery comes a new way of dealing with my emotions. I finally understand myself more and can deal with personal challenges accordingly. I finally feel like my feelings and emotions are valid and reasonable. I realize now that I am an emotional person and that will not change, I don’t want to change that, but now I am aware and I can figure out ways to remove myself from unnecessary situations and work through the ones I must face.Journey to enlightenment

Learning more about myself has been eye-opening, because I thought I knew myself before but found out that I am more complex than that; and gratifying. This has also reaffirmed to me to pay attention to and follow my intuition. All my life I have felt different, though I didn’t fully understand why, now I realize that this does not make me any less human, or less lovable, nor should it make me feel like I’m not worthy.

I now know that I can make a difference in someone else’s life by speaking up about my struggles. I have decided that I will no longer pretend to have it all together. I will let myself feel what comes naturally and let it pass without feeling guilty for it. I know it will take some time but I only have this one life and I want to make it great.Journey to enlightenment

Even with all of these questions I have, even when I wonder why I’m so different, one thing I’ve always been proud of and sure of is that I am not a follower. I love being original and being myself. I truly enjoy being creative, and seeing potential from things most people think of as useless or not beautiful. I like imperfections because they make things real; a worn piece of furniture means it’s been loved well over the years and reinventing it means it will be loved even longer but in a different way.

When it comes to my imperfections however, I have never been as understanding. I’ve never considered myself to be better than anyone else. I try my best not to hurt or offend others, I dislike the idea of being a burden. For this reason, I hesitate to ask for help when I need it because I don’t want to be a bother.

The one good thing to me that has come out of this, is that it has taught me to be independent because I learned to figure things out alone. The very bad thing about feeling this way is that I focus so much on my mistakes and imperfections, that I ignore all of the good things about myself. It is such a difficult thing to live this way because it is a constant battle.

Recently, I went through some life changes that had me wondering more than ever what is going on with me. While searching for answers I came across this: https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test. I took this test, read the results and I was astonished. As I was reading my results, it felt like someone was in my body translating all of the feelings and emotions into words that I could never speak before, because I could never find the words. I felt so many things: happy, relieved, understood, validated, and I finally understood why few people could understand me. I found out that my personality type is one of only about 4% of the population. 4%. That’s it.Journey to enlightenment

I know now that it is in my nature to be emotional, to care so much about others that I take on their emotions (happy or sad) and carry it with me long after our meeting. Having this personality is why I avoid social situations sometimes, it is why I feel exhausted after certain get-togethers with people. I know now that wanting to be alone sometimes is not a bad thing but actually a necessity for me, to restore and replenish myself so that I can continue to be that sensitive, caring person.

With this new self discovery comes a new way of dealing with my emotions. I finally understand myself more and can deal with personal challenges accordingly. I finally feel like my feelings and emotions are valid and reasonable. I realize now that I am an emotional person and that will not change, I don’t want to change that, but now I am aware and I can figure out ways to remove myself from unnecessary situations and work through the ones I must face.Journey to Enlightenment

Learning more about myself has been eye-opening,(because I thought I knew myself before but found out that I am more complex than that) and gratifying. This has also reaffirmed to me to pay attention to and follow my intuition. All my life I have felt different, though I didn’t fully understand why, now I realize that This does not make me any less human, or less lovable, nor should it make me feel like I I’m not worthy.

I now know that I can make a difference in someone else’s life by speaking up about my struggles. I have decided that I will no longer pretend to have it all together. I will let myself feel what comes naturally and let it pass without feeling guilty for it. I know it will take some time but I only have this one life and I want to make it great.

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